The Workday Reading: September 29, 2017
Sep 29, 2017
Affordable fall sweaters, dating advice for ladies who took a hiatus, Halloween pumpkin ideas, and more.
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1) Can salary increases offset the crappiness of a new job? (Marie Claire)
2) A plum sweaterdress + grey boots + a long necklace = A perfect fall outfit.
3) Givenchy put a woman in charge, and she sounds amazing. (NYTimes)
4) MM LaFleur made their incredible Morandi sweater in navy. Amazing.
5) You’re Married, You Don’t Need a Raise. (Verily)
6) Best <$75 Sweaters: an ivory loop sweater, a split-back pullover, a ruffle-trim plus-size sweater.
7) How to get back into dating after a long hiatus. (Refinery29)
8) Shoshanna makes lovely dresses for work and play. Now, I just need a sale.
9) Women aren’t nags; we’re just fed up. (Harper’s Bazaar)
10) This $20 mauve sweatshirt is my new Sunday morning favorite.
11) How to be a considerate house guest. (Parachute)
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What I’m Thinking for Halloween. White Constellation Pumpkins.
What Inspired Me. These fridge storage hacks. Bring on the storage bins.
What I’m Making for Dinner. Spicy Pineapple Chicken Stir-Fry.
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I ordered the new Morandi sweater in navy after I saw it on your Instagram. And then I ordered other things too… Oops. 🙂 Looking forward to getting it to wear in my (very cold) office!
The sweater dress from ASOS is a killer. Thank you for recommending it.
That Harper’s Bazaar article… I had a hard time getting past the first few paragraphs.
I really dislike the “I shouldn’t have to ask” thing, and getting all upset when the other person didn’t nail it. Why couldn’t she ask her husband specifically to ask on Facebook, call 4-5 services, and choose the best one because THAT’s what she wants, not just a cleaner bathroom? Why can’t she ask her husband to move the box?
I’m explicitly clear what/how I want things, and why. My husband appreciates it very much, since he always knows exactly what’s up. If I didn’t make myself clear enough, that’s on me, not the other person. You see where the gap is between what you REALLY wanted, what you got, and communicate how you can close that gap next time. (works with parents, friends, coworkers, etc)
I get the whole “emotional labor” thing women deal with, but I’m also under the impression a lot if is just poor communication and poor expectation setting.
I see her point, but….
Maybe I’ve just got a cold heart or something.
I agree with a lot of what you’re saying. Part of the problem is though, you don’t want to explain to your partner in detail and in triplicate how to clean a bathroom, etc.. But then again, if your request is that specific, get a maid.
You need to ask for what you want in all things, don’t expect people to guess. But when you do the same chore 1,000x, it’s not too much to ask that someone knows it needs to be done.
This article really resonated with me. I thought the author had clearly communicated what she wanted for Mother’s Day, and the issue was that her husband didn’t bother to put much thought into it because he didn’t really understand the significance. My significant other and I have good communication, but we still run into these issues. Asking your S.O. to put stuff away, etc. gets exhausting. I think about all of the emotional labor that women intrinsically take on and how that labor could be shared, thus freeing women’s mental and emotional capacity to focus on more important things, such as personal and professional pursuits, having more emotional availability for one’s partner and kids, or simply reducing stress.
I agree with you Janine. My partner and I communicate a lot and clearly (I came from a household with poor communication and bad tempers and I work really hard not to repeat those issues in my relationship) and it’s still frustrating at times. If I’ve asked you to put your dirty dish in the dishwasher after 4 different dinners, I don’t want to ask at the 5th. You should figure it out by then. If you’ve said that you’ll wash the dishes when I make dinner, then I shouldn’t have to ask you every time. We work through these issues when they come up but the author is right, they take emotional energy.