The Workday Reading: June 16, 2016
Jun 16, 2017
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1) Why I’ll Never Apologize for Being Intimidating Again. (Refinery29)
2) It’s the Clear the Rack sale at Nordstrom Rack. This $7 necklace caught my eye.
3) When you want kids but your partner doesn’t. (Man Repeller)
4) Dear Club Monaco, why must you make such beautiful dresses and jackets?
5) How do you criticize ‘problematic women’ without being a sexist? (Thought provoking, but my issue with this article is that they couldn’t seem to find any ‘problem’ women who weren’t conservatives. Go figure.) (Elle)
6) Work Outfit = one dot dress + one white blazer + one black belt.
7) What it’s really like to be 30 and single. (HuffPo)
8) Nordstrom has a ‘work mode’ section. Do not miss this pretty sheer-yoke top.
9) 3 Ways Women Can Have a Bigger Impact at Work. (Fortune)
10) Need a denim jacket? Try this Madewell or this Gap icon. Plus-size? Levi’s.
11) Why the Katherine Graham memoir is a must-read. (WaPost)
12) The best affordable skincare is Cosrx. Their acne patches and honey mask are life changing.
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What I’m Watching. Oprah’s Master Class. Condi, Jay-Z, and Ted Turner were all good.
What I’m Reading. The Seven Husbands of Evelyn Hugo.
What I’m Wearing on My Toes. Great Balls of Fire.
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I’m late to the game on Oprah’s Master Class! It’s a far better thing for me to watch during lunch than Real Housewives or Riverdale.
“Seven Husbands” is the next novel I have on deck. Worth it?
So far, I need to be able to focus on it more. Tough to read on a road trip with a neurotic pomeranian crawling on you.
Is that honey cream from Cosrx different from the CosRx honey cream they sell at ULTA? https://www.ulta.com/honey-ceramide-full-moisture-cream?productId=xlsImpprod15641058
I know it’s outdated of me, but I got stuck with counterfeit BB cream in the past from Amazon and would much rather buy cosmetics from a brick & mortar store…
I believe it is the same. No, I got stuck with a fake Tammy Fender moisturizer, you’re right to check.
In re: the piece on being called intimidating, etc. My boyfriend commented to me not long after our first date that he found me both impressive and intimidating and that it was a high compliment. He is incredibly liberal (more than me) and kind and I fully believe he did intend it as a compliment. It was part of the reason he wanted to see me again, so it is not ALWAYS a problem.
I do agree with the author though – women should not try to be less intimidating to men, they should find/engage with men who find those qualities appealing!
I would say yes to your reply and take it even further than just dating. I literally do not have time to make myself into a version that everyone wants. As a strong, opinionated woman, who falls as a lion on the personality tests (although I’m just barely, by the skin of my teeth, an extrovert), I am who I am, and if you don’t like it, that really is too bad. I don’t try to be an ass about things, but if you ask me my opinion I am going to give it to you, and not the fluffy version that you’re probably thinking I’ll give. At 36, it’s never really caused me any issues in life, but that may also be due to my personality. Life’s too short for faking.
Re: #7
Belle, I’d be interested to hear what it’s been like for you to shift in the past few years from bada** single woman, not dating, all hail the independent life! To equally bada** woman in a committed relationship having to think about how career decisions affect the other person, etc.
I agree if you’re open to it!
Yeah, re: 5, I’m glad someone is talking about this, since it seems most articles paint any criticism that females extend to other females as all “part of the problem,” which I find reductive and an insult to the ability of women to reasonably and respectfully disagree with one another. Women can and should engage in the competition of ideas with one another.
However, I can’t get beyond the pointed, highly-politicized and one-sided examples in this piece. Would have appreciated a range of women depicted, not just those inextricably associated with the current administration who many of us already feel comfortable disagreeing with. How about Warren, Clinton, Albright, or RBG? Or could we perhaps step away from the cluster of American politics and get more substantive for a moment with the likes of Merkel, Lagarde, Sandberg, Richards, Barra, or Yellen? Probably asking too much.
But since I’m already piling on, I also take issue with the term “problematic women”–who gets to decide who this label applies to? As a moderate, I’m totally turned off by both sides slapping this on to anyone who disagrees with them. That’s a good way to keep alienating those of us in the middle who aren’t invited to any of the parties (pun!) on account of their “problematic” features.
Maybe we should start a wallflower party for women in the middle who never get invited to dance because we’re not liberal enough or conservative enough?
Sign me up. Seriously.
I’m on the left of the political spectrum and would have appreciated some broader examples too. Linda Sarsour of the Women’s March is a good example because when she is discussed there are so many issues at play – religious bias, gender, religious and cultural choice, feminism, intersectionality, and international conflict. If you want to get into women in media, why not choose a larger group – Megyn Kelly AND Rachel Maddow? Throw Samantha Bee in there?
Also, I’m sick of hearing about Megyn Kelly. Every new cycle there’s something new – her shoulders are out! She’s wearing a cocktail dress! She’s interviewing horrible people!
The CosRx Aloe Sun Cream SPF 50+is my holy grail and so cheap!
https://www.amazon.com/Cosrx-Aloe-Soothing-Cream-SPF50/dp/B00PBX3FLW/ref=sr_1_1_a_it?ie=UTF8&qid=1497628430&sr=8-1&keywords=cosrx+aloe+soothing+sun+cream
Ditto that. No place for us moderates today.
I’m reading the Seven Husbands of Evelyn Hugo as well. Only about a few chapters in, but I’m intrigued.
Belle,
You used this same image and quote a few years back and I’m happy to see it recycled. I adopted it as a personal mantra of sorts during my undergraduate years. Sometimes a cheesy quote resonates in unanticipated ways. All that to say, keep em coming!
Gosh, I love Katharine Graham’s memoirs. Definitely a must read.