This weekend, a friend who lives outside the Beltway sent me an article that both perplexed and angered me. The piece was about dating in the District, but seeing as how I haven’t dated in earnest since Bush was in office, I thought I’d solicit your opinions on the matter.
The article, which appeared in the Huffington Post, chronicled the travails of several single Republicans who can’t find love in D.C. allegedly because of their party affiliation. Here is one of my favorite excerpts.
Looking for love can be fraught experience. But in the nation’s capital, it seems that being a single straight Republican can be an especially lonely endeavor.
Tim, who didn’t want his real name used, went out with a nice woman. They slept together. Then she Googled him.
She “broke up with me over an op-ed I wrote,” Tim recently told The Huffington Post. “After that, I just disclosed up front in the profile, and got several ‘Thanks for your note, you seem interesting, but I can’t imagine dating a Republican.'”
So you went on a date, had sex and then, she dumped you because of an op-ed you wrote? Either that was one hell of an op-ed or this woman is one of the most shallow people in the history of time. Because I don’t know about you ladies, but if I liked a guy enough to take him home, I think I’d give him a chance despite his party affiliation.
Or it could be the third option, that the sex wasn’t that great and she was looking for a plausible excuse to cut the reigns? Just a thought.
The article also asked a Democrat what he thought about the possibility of dating a Republican. Prepare yourself for some real wisdom.
Here’s a debriefing: A 60-year-old who asked to be called “Stefan Colberts” recently posted an otherwise expansive ad on Craigslist that specified he did not want to hear from Republicans.
“I need to feel emtionally connected to someone and I can’t if they are mean-spirited and do not give a damn about the poor, as most Republicans are,” he says. (“Chomsky-anarchist-democratic-socialist” and “anti-capitalist” is how Colberts describes his own politics. “Although as you know we all have our contradictions,” he says. “I am living on some investments.” )
Oh, I see. Identifying as a Republican automatically makes me a mean-spirited person who steps over the bodies of dying children as I climb into my Platinum Edition Escalade. I wasn’t aware, but I’m glad to know that I can stop giving 10% of my income to charity and volunteering in my community. What a waste of time and energy that is.
And just to prove that ridiculous generalizations are a truly bipartisan pastime, the writer also included this gem.
“Liberal girls love conservative guys,” he says. “We have jobs.”
I’ve never wanted to slap a complete stranger so hard in my entire life. It’s amazing that this sincere, forward-thinking, open-minded person can’t find a date. I.am.shocked.
Look, I understand wanting to date someone who aligns with your core values and beliefs. And I know that it is very important to find someone who you are compatible with, but this idea that every Republican is a fascist tyrant who hates gays and thinks charity is for chumps is as unfair and antiquated as the notion that every Democrat is a pinko-commie liberal who wears hemp underwear and supports Hugo Chavez.
The people who identify with a political party run the gamut from extreme to the moderate, and when you live in a political town, you have to be willing to judge a person on more than just the letter after his or her name. And if you’re not willing to give someone a chance, then that says more about you than it does about them.
Also, I think the entire premise of this article is BS. First off, there are a lot of single Republicans who live work and date in D.C., so I don’t buy that there is a shortage like the author claims. Secondly, I know plenty of staffers, lobbyists and politicos who’ve married outside their party. And in my eight years in D.C., I have NEVER heard any of my friends, Dem or Rep, say that they wouldn’t date someone because he or she was a member of the other party. So while the quotes in the article make me cringe, I find the entire foundation of the piece to be pretty ridiculous as well.
I’d love to hear what you think about the article. Is the premise valid or is it just sensationalism? Have any of you experienced similar prejudice from members of the other party?
P.S. And this is the last time that I ever link to an article where an interview subject asks to be identified by their porn name.