Discuss: Facebook Toilet Talk
Jul 1, 2011
Like many women nearing 30, most of my friends are married with children. Fawning over their little ones on Facebook is one of my favorite past times. I love watching these little people grow from babies to toddlers to little kids on their way to school. But some of the comments that these new parents share on Facebook strike me as the kind of thing that shouldn’t be expressed in a public forum.
Thoughts on the size of woman’s breasts while she’s nursing and how her husband loves them is probably something best kept to yourself. Naked photos of your children (even innocent baby pics) probably shouldn’t be posted on the Internet for safety reasons. And, frankly, your Facebook friends don’t really want to hear about your child’s bowel movements, accidents, and incidents during potty training.
And they definitely don’t want to see photos. Yes, photos.
Facebook is a place to share thoughts about your life and stay connected with your friends. But there is an expected level of decorum, or at least there should be. Especially if you liberally friend hundreds of people from work, school, your church, etc.
Facebook over-sharing isn’t limited to parents. I’ve read more than a few status updates about my friend’s sex lives, drunken romps and in-law issues that I thought weren’t appropriate for public consumption. But as more of my friends become parents, the over-shares about diaper contents, post-baby sex, etc. become more rampant.
I understand that Moms and Dads need a good support system, a friend group with whom they can commiserate and share solutions with, but does that group need to include everyone of your college dorm mates? The pastor at your church? Your co-workers? The guy you met at the bar, that one time after the game, who dated your friend for a couple of weeks?
What do you think: Am I over-thinking this? Are the potty updates and the personal thoughts okay? Or do you find these status updates cringe-worthy as well? And do you think it’s appropriate to say something (privately and tactfully, of course) to the people who are over-sharing?