It’s a New Year, so let’s dig into the reader mail bag to answer a few questions.  From conference cocktail attire to

Hello,

I am attending a legal conference in DC in mid January for the first time since January 2020 and need a few new outfits for the numerous nighttime cocktail receptions and dinners, or at least recommendations on modern ways to wear what I have. Do you have any recommendations?

Diane

I would start by going through what you already have.  Recently, I had to try on a bunch of work clothes to see what fit and what I still wanted to wear.  That narrowed down my choices (quickly).

If you have dresses that you like, I recommend adding a stylish belt or jazzing up other accessories.  Nordstrom has a few lovely choices — I like this bow belt from Kate Spade, a skinny knot belt, and this wrap belt.  Another option is a pair of chic earrings.  Or add a fun blazer over a simple dress; I’d choose this sequin blazer or this white tuxedo blazer.

Looking for a new dress to wear?  I like the versatility of this knit midi dress.  (Pair it with tall boots and a cool pair of earrings.)  This Reiss off-the-shoulder dress can be adjusted depending on how much deep shoulder action you want to give.  I also really like the flutter sleeve on this Maggy London dress (though I would probably shorten it to knee-length).  Plus-size? The lace pattern on this City Chic dress isn’t your traditional, boring floral.

Abra,

Can you help me find a pair of earrings that I can wear every day?  A dainty earring with a little bit of sparkle would be nice.

TZ

This Trinal stud from Missoma is one of my favorite pairs.  For something a bit edgier, try these small spike studs.

Dear Belle-

I am presenting at a conference for medical professionals in April and I have no idea what to wear. The audience is primarily male managers & directors that deal with medical equipment – their day to day wardrobe is khakis and a polo or button down.

What do I wear to present? I’ve never felt very comfortable in suits (5’2, plus size), probably because they really aren’t cut for my body, and I work from home (guessing my leggings & tunic daily uniform won’t cut it), so I’m feeling at a loss. I need to be comfortable on my feet all day (no heels) and want to look polished but not so overdone that I stand out in a negative way.

Any guidance would be appreciated!

Thanks, Jess

In this situation, you have two options: 1) a simple dress in a relaxed color (no black, no red) or 2) a pair of trousers with a blouse and sweater jacket.

For choice number one, I like this cobalt dress (for <$75) and this London Times dress with a button waist.  Both dresses are professional, but not stuffy.  Plus-size ladies should try this printed wrap dress.

For choice number two, I like this plaid sweater blazer (also in plus size) with a navy blouse and pants.  J.Crew’s Chelsea blazer is also nice; I like it with this dark brown blouse.

Dear Abra,

It’s that time of year when I buy a planner and hope it solves all of my problems.  I’ve tried several over the years, but I’m hoping you have a suggestion for an “adult” planner.  No pink, no sparkles.  What have you got?

Jai

This Container Store planner comes in a pale tan with metallic accents.  One of my former co-workers swears by the Day Designer planners.  Prefer something customized?  This Etsy seller can make you one to your exact specifications.

Belle,

You posted some underwear that you wore during pregnancy.  I’m 19 weeks, and mine no longer fit.  Which ones did you like?

H/E

The Proof light absorbency underwear were my primary choice (also in plus).  For the last few weeks, I wore these Motherhood Maternity briefs.  The low rise made them easy to wear without pinching.

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