+ Maybe we’re too hard on Momfluencers.
+ This crewneck sweatshirt would make a good gift.
+ Is only checking e-mail after noon the key to avoiding work drag?
+ Must Have <$200 Blazers: Fitted black, cool navy tweed, and sleek ivory.
+ These mini-choco chip cookies are a holiday crowd pleaser.
+ Need a sling bag that doesn’t look like an 90s fanny pack? This one.
+ How ’empowerment feminism’ gaslights women.
+ Do I want a sequin jumpsuit? Doesn’t sound right, maybe just a top.
+ Meet the married couples who are living “apart together.”
+ Food52 has a hot chocolate shop, the sauce pan you need, and tips to make the best holiday hot chocolate, ever.
+ What to do if a direct report is bullying you.
+ Buy these Nordstrom ankle-strap pumps; hold onto them til spring.
+ Why does medical language shame women when it comes to fertility?
+ Affordable Bracelet Stack: tennis bracelet, herringbone, chain link.
+ Holiday traditions aren’t set in stone. It’s time for an update.
+ Banana Republic has cute baby clothes. Love this sweater!
+ How to turn online friendships into real life ones.
+ Ugh, this Reiss blouse haunts my dreams.
One Timely Read. A discussion about mid-life, and why it’s time to ‘rebrand’ common struggles for middle-aged women, like menopause.
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8 comments
Jen says:
Thanks so much for sharing the article about menopause. My first significantly late period (since my youngest was born 13 years ago) arrived just in time for my 47th birthday a few days ago, and it’s been a strangely emotionally week for me. I’ve started down the perimenopausal road, so this is really on my mind.
SHANNON says:
Having been through the infertility, multiple miscarriage, and pregnancy in my forties journey, I thought I was pretty bombproof.
Until I saw “elderly multigravida” on my paperwork, which is the medical term for a pregnant woman over 40 who has had previous pregnancies.
It sounds like some sort of Dungeons & Dragons monster.
Susan says:
Oh Shannon NO!! That is the most ridiculous wording!? I had a child at 40 and it was dubbed a “geriatric pregnancy” and I thought that was as bad as it gets. That term is misogynistic and terribly outdated! Gaaah
Belle says:
Wow. That’s a new one for me. My gosh, we need new names for these things.
Rach says:
I was pregnant at 34 with my second kid and gave birth a month after turning 35. I also found ‘elderly multigravida’ on my file. Really odd.
RR says:
I’m 37 and they are using the term “elderly multigravida” for me! These things don’t bother me (though I get why they bother others), but agree that it’s ridiculous.
SHANNON says:
I don’t find the notion that I’m older ridiculous or offensive – I started going gray in my early 20s and gave birth at 42 with a full shock of silver hair. No big.
But “elderly multigravida” – eeesh. The two words together just sound gloomy and like a fantasy monster in a cave somewhere.
I’m a perfectly ordinary woman who had a baby later than you might typically see, and who therefore needed a bit if extra monitoring.
There needs to be a more gracious description.
Nancy says:
An especially good post, Abra, and at this time of year?!! Impressive, and thank you! I always love the fashion ideas, of course—that Reiss blouse! The article about the demeaning terminology for so many women’s health issues: YES, I have felt that way for decades, can we please do something about it?! And the ways that feminism can have a negative effect on us, and women at mid-life, and married couples rebalancing their lives, even if it means more separateness, also thought provoking.The focus on ways of moving forward, wow, we need it these days, thanks again!