The Edition: No. 346
Dec 14, 2022
+ Maybe we’re too hard on Momfluencers.
+ This crewneck sweatshirt would make a good gift.
+ Is only checking e-mail after noon the key to avoiding work drag?
+ Must Have <$200 Blazers: Fitted black, cool navy tweed, and sleek ivory.
+ These mini-choco chip cookies are a holiday crowd pleaser.
+ Need a sling bag that doesn’t look like an 90s fanny pack? This one.
+ How ’empowerment feminism’ gaslights women.
+ Do I want a sequin jumpsuit? Doesn’t sound right, maybe just a top.
+ Meet the married couples who are living “apart together.”
+ Food52 has a hot chocolate shop, the sauce pan you need, and tips to make the best holiday hot chocolate, ever.
+ What to do if a direct report is bullying you.
+ Buy these Nordstrom ankle-strap pumps; hold onto them til spring.
+ Why does medical language shame women when it comes to fertility?
+ Affordable Bracelet Stack: tennis bracelet, herringbone, chain link.
+ Holiday traditions aren’t set in stone. It’s time for an update.
+ Banana Republic has cute baby clothes. Love this sweater!
+ How to turn online friendships into real life ones.
+ Ugh, this Reiss blouse haunts my dreams.
One Timely Read. A discussion about mid-life, and why it’s time to ‘rebrand’ common struggles for middle-aged women, like menopause.
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Thanks so much for sharing the article about menopause. My first significantly late period (since my youngest was born 13 years ago) arrived just in time for my 47th birthday a few days ago, and it’s been a strangely emotionally week for me. I’ve started down the perimenopausal road, so this is really on my mind.
Having been through the infertility, multiple miscarriage, and pregnancy in my forties journey, I thought I was pretty bombproof.
Until I saw “elderly multigravida” on my paperwork, which is the medical term for a pregnant woman over 40 who has had previous pregnancies.
It sounds like some sort of Dungeons & Dragons monster.
Oh Shannon NO!! That is the most ridiculous wording!? I had a child at 40 and it was dubbed a “geriatric pregnancy” and I thought that was as bad as it gets. That term is misogynistic and terribly outdated! Gaaah
Wow. That’s a new one for me. My gosh, we need new names for these things.
I was pregnant at 34 with my second kid and gave birth a month after turning 35. I also found ‘elderly multigravida’ on my file. Really odd.
I’m 37 and they are using the term “elderly multigravida” for me! These things don’t bother me (though I get why they bother others), but agree that it’s ridiculous.
I don’t find the notion that I’m older ridiculous or offensive – I started going gray in my early 20s and gave birth at 42 with a full shock of silver hair. No big.
But “elderly multigravida” – eeesh. The two words together just sound gloomy and like a fantasy monster in a cave somewhere.
I’m a perfectly ordinary woman who had a baby later than you might typically see, and who therefore needed a bit if extra monitoring.
There needs to be a more gracious description.
An especially good post, Abra, and at this time of year?!! Impressive, and thank you! I always love the fashion ideas, of course—that Reiss blouse! The article about the demeaning terminology for so many women’s health issues: YES, I have felt that way for decades, can we please do something about it?! And the ways that feminism can have a negative effect on us, and women at mid-life, and married couples rebalancing their lives, even if it means more separateness, also thought provoking.The focus on ways of moving forward, wow, we need it these days, thanks again!