The Edition: No. 203
Dec 23, 2020
Work to become, not to acquire. // Pearl Buck
+ Maybe we should approach self-care the way we approach our jobs.
+ These $15 blue-light glasses are a WFH essential.
+ What’s the best way to donate to charity?
+ Be ready for Zoom NYE with a sequin blouse or sequin sweater.
+ Reasons to say ‘no’ at work, and templates for how.
+ This acupressure mat is one of the best things I bought this year.
+ How pots and pans took over your #sponsored Instagram feed.
+ Sale-on-sale at Boden. Don’t miss this fluffy sweater and <$50 sweatshirt dress.
+ Mental health ground rules for spending the holidays alone.
+ Eberjey has the cutest lingerie and pajamas. Love this lacy bralette.
+ Long Read. Texas wedding photographers have seen some s**t during the pandemic.
Do you have small children in your home who need to stay entertained and busy over the holiday break?
Mother Untitled has some fun ideas for projects and crafts. From multi-colored ice sculptures (above) to salad spinner art, there are enough cute ideas to get you started. If you have a good source for keeping kids of all ages busy during a socially isolated holiday break, leave them in the comments.
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that texas wedding article left me SHOOK. I did have an experience this year where one of my best friends from college who lives in the midwest kept going on with her wedding planning – twice, after her summer date got cancelled & rescheduled – throughout everything. most of the bridesmaids (I was one of them) told her we were out, but it took the governor banning all activities for her to finally cancel her wedding. and yes, I tried talking to her multiple times about how she should just postpone it to 2021 or 2022 to no avail. and she is normally one of the most caring, compassionate people I know!
I haven’t been married, but what on EARTH psychologically is happening to brides to make them so blind and for so many to have the mindset that the wedding is the most important thing? truly leaves me baffled.
The psychological pressure on brides is huge. You can’t understand it until you’ve been through it. I always wanted a small wedding, and then you start hearing from people who want to come to your wedding, and pretty soon, you’re having a medium-size wedding. Everyone has expectations, your trying to meet all of them. Ditto on requests. Then, add that everyone is always asking for more info and updates. And I’m sure in your friend’s case, constantly asking if she was going forward or not.
You’re so emotionally, financially committed (not to mention the time) by the 4mos before the wedding, I can’t imagine being in her spot. It just all gets so heavy.
I honestly wish we had planned to get married this year so I could have cancelled it and had no issues with people and just had a small courthouse wedding.
I think it depends on culture, your personality, and age you get married as well. And definitely how much money you’ve already spent on it or if you have a dress already altered.
One friend is relieved because her wedding is postponed because the groom kept wanting to please his mother and add more people and things to the wedding, but his side of the family doesn’t have the money to pay all the extras.
If she had been more financially committed, I think she would’ve gone through with it- although a smaller wedding due to covid restrictions.
When did we become a society where someone’s wedding day trumps someone’s life? That articles makes me so sad, especially here in SoCal where we are at 0% ICU beds going in to Christmas. Stay safe all, and have a Merry Christmas!
Could. Not. Agree. More. Wedding “culture” in this country is something that needs to be changed.. When I got engaged, the relatives, friends, neighbors, etc opinions and pressure (as my husband says, opinions are like a#$holes, every one has one!) exhausted me, week one. So we blew everyone off and eloped. It was one of the best decisions I’ve ever made. Our day was about US and not the mother of the bride’s neighbor’s food sensitivities. LOL. I think spending all that money and energy and time and mental health depletion is 100 percent NOT worth it, Covid or not. (sorry not sorry!)
My instagram account has some little activities for toddlers/preschoolers that might be helpful to some parents of young’ns!
http://www.instagram.com/onehavingfun