The Edition: No. 180
Jul 14, 2020
The greatest heroes are those who do their duty in the daily grind of domestic affairs whilst the world whirls as a maddening dreidel. // Florence Nightengale
+ The Myth of Having It All (still relevant 18 years later).
+ A<$35 sleeveless dress you can wear to the office, WFH, or on the weekend.
+ A beginner’s guide to skincare with helpful information for anyone.
+ Loving these modern studs and simple hoops from Verishop.
+ Why mothers of young children shouldn’t feel pressured to go part-time.
+ Fake a Tropical Vacay at Home with this Madewell dress, sandals and bracelets.
+ Is it okay to lie just a little bit on my resume?
+ These Moses sandals are the summertime slipper replacement you’re looking for.
+ Sex might be over for parents in the time of COVID.
+ Mippo has the best workout tops on Amazon. This long sleeve is my favorite.
+ 25 Freelance Jobs to Boost Your Income.
+ This tie-dye kit would make a fun weekend activity.
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That quote looks like Morgan Harper Nichols‘ work. She’s a great follow on Instagram (@morganharpernichols).
I took issue with the C. Nicole Mason piece when it ran yesterday, for multiple reasons. I think the author’s work here is counter productive. She takes issue with society and the media making parenthood a women’s issue, but then centers her piece around women (and don’t get me started on the fact that it ran as a Lily article, aimed only at women). In this way, the media continues to perpetuate the idea that men are not parents or do not have parenthood responsibilities that can sometimes take them away from work. I’m fatigued from all the articles saying this is a workplace issue, but how can women expect and receive more from their male partners when pieces like this reinforce that parenthood falls on women?
I didn’t care for this either, but more because it just calls out a problem AGAIN that we all already know exists. There’s no concrete suggestions for raising the issue in the workplace or with your partner. Just that it isn’t fair and women shouldn’t do this (even though the author did).
I think it’s time to accept that the articles that make all the women reading them nod their heads in agreement are not working to change the way men, whether at work or at home, think things should be. Worse yet is that if you asked a man whether he does his fair share he will say yes, similar to how an unqualified man will apply for a job anyways, overestimating his fitness for the job. So how do you fix something where women are practically drowning, and the men in their life think they are doing enough to keep their heads above water? This cognitive dissonance is so frustrating, but only until you completely give up on someone saving you from the waves. It’s sad, but most women are probably just tired of fighting about it, so they quit, or scale back, and then they leave as soon as the kids are 18.
Now that clarisonic is shutting down effective September 30, what is a recommended replacement device when I run out of my stock of replacement brushheads? I think Abra you recommended something you had switched to that was silicone, and now I can’t find what that was!
What?!!
Whoa. I would not have seen that one coming.
I think she recommended the Luna Foreo.
The prints on those Madewell dresses are just beautiful! The aspirational part of me that thinks if I just TRY HARDER I can wear bright colors and be a jazzy print person wishes I wasn’t old enough to know myself better. But what a great collab.