The Edition: No. 37
Apr 20, 2018
“Instead of wondering when your next vacation is, you ought to set up a life you don’t need to escape from.” — Seth Godin
Salaried. A helpful article about training women to ask for more money at work. Still stumped? Consult Career Contessa’s script.
Satchels. I grabbed this deeply discounted grey Ted Baker satchel because it was chic and ladylike. And bought this $39 blush round satchel for fun.
Speak Up. Six women talk about how they revealed their bipolar diagnosis.
Shutup. No one is at the gym to talk to you.
Spotted. This dotted scallop cardigan is a pretty, preppy throw-on for spring. I’m also obsessed with this flirty, dotted wrap blouse. Or go all-in with this dotted sheath dress (petites, and plus).
Specify. The surprising power of asking questions in the workplace.
Sleep Deprived. Still the best under-eye concealer.
Stylish. Meet the Hollywood power stylists setting the trends for the rest of us.
Sheathed. Loving this mid-price Adrianna Papell and this $290 magenta Hobbs London dress. Both are wonderful work options for spring.
Sanity. How to keep up with current events, without losing your mind.
Swim. This is the coolest one-piece suit I’ve seen in a while. I also like this wrap bikini-top.
Satire. Impoverished Kenyan Bean Picker Can’t Wait to Hear What Starbucks Has to Say About Racial Sensitivity.
Okay, so Facebook. I know a lot of you ladies either aren’t on it, or aren’t actively using it. There are always privacy concerns with social media, and I understand that. But I am so impressed by the community that readers of this blog are creating on the platform, that I want to make another push for you to join.
Last week’s Article Club discussion about beauty regimens and norms was awesome. Today, we’re discussing this ManRepeller piece. I’m sure it will be a fun topic. (Find it pinned to the top of the Community Group, link below.)
Also, we opened up the community group to reader questions. Ladies have been getting great advice on everything from professional headshots to Paris travel and wedding venue options. I’ve been incredibly proud to see how the discussion is evolving and how helpful and supportive the community is.
So join us. Like The Work Edit page, and join the Community Group.
Hey Belle,
Quite often the links, particularly Sephora’s, don’t work for Canadian readers; they just kick to the site’s homepage. Would you consider naming the product in the listing so we sad Canucks can at least google it? I’m running on about three hours sleep a night for the last few weeks, so under eye concealer information is flipping essential.
Please and thank you! XX
Thank you for the timely bipolar post. I’m one of the regular commenters on here, 6 months ago I was diagnosed as rapid cycling BP 2 with a comorbid anxiety disorder. Unfortunately I’m also treatment resistant and medication is a gamble if it will make me worse. Like one group will give me constant horrible nightmares, one group will make me suicidal, one group will give me seizures…I have a few friends and family who know, but tonight I have to have a conversation with my in laws to discuss my illness with them. Their exposure was me in convulsions, laughing and crying at the same time, explaining why I wasn’t on other medication with scary words like psychosis and the ER Dr’s insistence that I must be on something else (illicit) which I wasnt. They’re afraid for my husband’s safety. I’m incredibly fortunate that my husband is massively supportive and understanding, but I’m hoping this talk will ease his family’s impressions that he must be rescued from our marriage.
At work I’ve gone from a rockstar to a forgotten cubicle. Hopefully I can recover one day. I’m also in school. I just get lectured to take my meds by my professors, and explanations of med resistance are met with incredulity.
Good luck to you. Someone I cared about very deeply was diagnosed with bipolar disorder years ago, complicated by his use of illicit narcotics in a misplaced attempt at self-medication. He ultimately found the right medication balance only by taking six weeks off work and going to a clinic that monitored and altered his medication. But this isn’t an option for everyone, nor is it a guarantee.
I was always struck by how terrified he was that he wouldn’t figure it out. That even if he did, no one would accept him as he was. And that he could be a danger to those around him, if not physically, emotionally. It was deeply painful to watch, so I empathize with your husband and am grateful he’s there for you.
This is your fight. Whether people understand it, is their problem. If it means you need to step back from your goals for a minute, then it does. But don’t let the opinions of other people make you feel badly about yourself, most people would collapse under this kind of pressure. The worst and most painful fights are the ones that happen inside of us. I wish you strength with it.
@Anon Today – wishing you the very best. There are ups and downs with any mental illness, but there is no reason for anyone to treat you as though you are incapable of being in a healthy, happy marriage. Hoping you can find a treatment that works for you. I’ve been struggling with depression for most of my life at this point, and I try to take one day at a time.
Amen to the ‘no talking at the gym’ article. I’ll smile/nod at people, but I am there to work out, get through it, and get out. I’m focused on trying to breathe and wipe away sweat, it’s not the optimal time to try speaking!
SHESOMELICIOUS – the under eye concealer is Makeup Forever Ultra HD Concealer
Consider trying a ketogenic diet to mitigate your symptoms. It’s not as crazy as it might sound. Here’s an article about some success in treating schizoaffective disorder. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/diagnosis-diet/201709/low-carbohydrate-diet-superior-antipsychotic-medications
I know that’s different, but it might work and it can’t hurt. I went on a ketogenic diet to lose weight, and it was great for that, but the feeling of well-being and mental clarity that that results from being ketogenic is incredible. It’s a far better benefit than weight loss. Maybe it would help with bipolar disorder as well.
One caution, though — you can’t do keto part way. You can’t just do it during the week and take weekends off, or have a cheat night once a week, or anything. I inspired a lot of friends to try keto, but they didn’t go all in and they all gave up pretty quickly. If you go all in, it all gets really easy after a month or so.