It’s time to talk about salaries, why does Tinder have so much data on us?, and dresses you need for work…
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1) What is everyone else making? The Salary Project. (Career Contessa)
2) This Apolis Farmer’s Market Bag shows your city pride.
3) How Cosmo turned dieting and being skinny into a crusade. (Quartz)
4) Nordstrom Under $50: a relaxed tee, an ombre scarf, a pearl-detailed cardi.
5) I asked Tinder for my data. It sent me 800 pages. (The Guardian)
6) Boden’s Marisa dress and Connie dress are work must-haves.
7) How do I know if I’m marrying the right guy? (Elle)
8) Need to calm down? These Bach’s Rescue Pastilles really work.
9) The elements of the perfect elevator pitch. (Camille Styles)
10) BR’s 2-in-1 cowlneck sweater is chic. Also, this sweaterdress is to.die.for.
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What I Found Inspiring. The Dying Art of Disagreement.
What I Need. Wednesday Cake. Perhaps this London Fog Cake.
What You Should Check. Are you registered to vote (in the correct place)? Young Invincibles makes it easy to register or double-check your registration.
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20 comments
Britt says:
Any suggestions on sizing for Biden dresses?
Belle says:
I run a 4-6, I usually buy the 6. Often, if you just call them, they can tell you whether it runs big or small.
Yael @ Nosherium says:
I just got the Boden Connie dress. I like it a lot, but the arms are pretty tight. I’m bustier than the Boden models, so I’m going to have to tack the wrap-style bodice. I ordered a size 8P, slightly larger than suggested by Boden’s size chart and it fits well, so size up. Right now, the the dress is on sale for $105 in the pink and green.
britt says:
Wow. I was stunned by #7 that is truly truly terrible advice (IMO). She may well be marrying the wrong man but the advice to marry the one with whom she has been cheating for a year and a half? Am I missing that this was a tongue and cheek response? Sounds to me like the right move is not to marry ANYONE till she can figure out her feelings and be in a relationship with honesty and fidelity (unless it’s agreed upon that the relationship is ‘open’). I can’t believe that advice!!
kATIE did says:
THIS EXACTLY. As someone who made that exact mistake, I concur a million times over.
Obsessive relationships are almost always an addiction to a feeling, NOT an affinity for the other person.
Erica says:
SAME HERE, exactly what she said ^.
Marie says:
Bach Flower Remedies are homeopathy – the remedies are diluted to undetectable levels, so you’re just buying expensive candy. It doesn’t work, except maybe as a placebo.
Belle says:
I’m not a scientist or a doctor or a homeopath. I bought these because I mistook them for a throat drop, like Grether’s Pastilles. I’d been using them before meetings, and after a few days noticed I felt a little calmer when meeting with people, but I didn’t know why. Because I had removed them from the actual tin and put them in a smaller baggie in my purse, I didn’t know they were supposed to be for stress relief until I went to check what flavor they were so I could re-order them. So I don’t think it’s placebo effect.
Marie says:
It can’t be anything else, though, since there is no detectible active ingredient. Please read up on homeopathy before recommending it!
Mpls says:
+1 -homopathy is all placebo. Which is fine for things like stress relief – you are doing the body good (reducing stress) by performing an action that doesn’t have any other side effects. The placebo effect is real and can be good. Just don’t mistake homopathy as something that can provide a medicinal treatment for infections/viruses/cancer.
Jess says:
I think you’d be hard pressed to say the all homeopathy is placebo effect. Especially given that the vast majority of “modern” medicines were originally found in plant or animals. One primes example is aspirin, which was first discovered in willow bark. If you chew on willow bark it will relieve pain, tastes terrible though! I would encourage you to research this further. There are literally millions of people in the world who use plants (herbalism) to treat disease. Many are using foods alone to change the way a disease diagnosis has affected them. Example, a close friend of mine has a daughter with Lyme’s disease, she went on a strict food protocol, a side effect of this was her son’s Tourette’s syndrome went away. Can you prove it? Technically, not 100% but the correlation is 100% there.
Belle says:
The placebo effect requires knowing that you’re taking something that’s supposed to make you feel better. I didn’t know I was taking something that was supposed to help with stress, I thought I was eating a cough drop. So in this individual case, it wasn’t a placebo effect.
Am I saying this is some magic cure-all, of course not. Am I saying, use this instead of traditional medicine, don’t be absurd. I’m recommending a product that helped me. I don’t need to be an expert in homeopathy to say hey, this seemed to relax me a bit. Just like I don’t need to be a nutritionist to say, “drinking coconut water seemed to help my skin” or a dermatologist to say, “this eye cream really lessened my dark circles.”
Sublimegirl says:
I’ve used homeopathic medicines to cure common colds, cough, hay fever, sore throats etc for many years, They are mild and have no side effects. They have saved me from endless rounds of antibiotics,so I would argue the ‘placebo’ effect.
Cait says:
Yes, yes, YES to Career Contessa! I hate how taboo a subject salary is, especially for women. Bring all the money talk out in the open and everyone will be better off.
Jill says:
No offense but who has time to make or buy a Wednesday cake? It’s Wednesday night. Got home from work a t 8, was glad to have leftovers from the weekend for dinner because I didn’t have time to eat all day. A lot of stuff that’s supposed to br inspirational makes me feel worse (did I fail at life because I work a lot and come home exhausted?) or maybe envious over a lifestyle that I don’t know to exist.
Belle says:
The intention obviously wasn’t to make you feel bad, just like your comment wasn’t meant to make women who might have had time feel like they’re not working as hard as you are. Some women have time. Some women don’t. Maybe next week you will, and next week they won’t. I used to bake at 10pm, after a long day at work as a way to unwind. Sometimes, I still do. A wednesday cake wasn’t meant to be aspirational. It was meant to say hey, life is worth celebrating, so if your Wednesday feels lackluster, put a cupcake on it.
Abbie says:
I made Wednesday baked goods last night. Mid-week game changer.
Kel says:
Love “put a cupcake on it”. Thanks for sharing Wednesday Cake, Belle. I recommend one of those 3-minute microwave mug cakes for those who don’t have time for a full-on Wednesday cake but could really use a pick-me-up.
Belle says:
Mine are always kind of grainy. I should probably work on a better recipe.
Jill says:
Yes, I understand. We should all bake or not bake as time and desire allow. Thank you for everything you do.