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1) Why is career advice for women still so sexist? (Management Today)
2) My Steve Madden sandals arrived this week. I need them in every color.
3) Is there a fix for sounding like a know-it-all at work? (Elle)
4) Absolutely loving this Newlily floral skirt and matching top. Such a chic spring look.
5) Is your relationship doomed if your partner lies about finances? (Mel)
6) Under $150 at Outnet: Gorgeous Sam Edelman pumps, a BroderieAnglaisee top, an ivory fluted skirt.
7) How to protect yourself from a nude photo hack. (Marie Claire)
8) Anyone else intrigued by Lancome’s new progressive nighttime peel?
9) Lean In’s Biggest Hurdle: Women with young kids want to work part-time. (National Review)
10) These blush-colored snakeskin sneakers are like a dream come true.
11) Is this trick the best way to stop co-workers from disrupting your day? (Levo)
12) This $88 floral, off-the-shoulder dress from Aqua is everything I want for summer.
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What I Learned. Oh, so that’s how you chop an onion.
What Made Me Laugh. A Millenial Marriage Proposal (video).
What I’m Considering. Could this surgical cleanser be the cure for my acne?
What I’m Reading. A Gentlemen in Moscow.
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Ohhhh please let us know if the cleanser fixes acne!!!
I’d give SO. MUCH. to get rid of it for good!
I love this cleanser for my acne: https://www.paulaschoice.com/shop/skin-care-categories/cleansers/_/Clear-Pore-Normalizing-Cleanser/
I’ve been using it for 4-5 years and my acne has significantly been reduced (not eliminated though).
The Steve Madden sandals are the BEST! I bought two pairs last summer and plan to add two more soon. Not only are they cute but insanely comfortable too.
That national review piece made me cringe. It was obviously written to further a particular point of view, which makes some of its valid points, seem really invalid.
You can’t talk about women “wanting to work less” without also talking about the systemic social pressure and influence to want that.
Agree with this. At the end the article states: “To help women thrive and achieve happiness as they see it, we must first acknowledge that most mothers — inside or outside academia — want to avoid full-time work, at least while their children are young.” Um, no. At least not in my experience. As a woman who fits the demographic of the woman in this article (but I work full time), I’d say that most mothers of young children are really exhausted from doing ALL OF THE THINGS and work is sometimes the only thing that really can give, if need be. This ‘conclusion’ reached by the article would be much different I suspect if we actually supported working mothers instead of pressuring them and still expecting them do manage nearly all domestic duties…
Amen.
Agreed on the furtherance of a point of view. I thought it was thought provoking, nonetheless.
It’s definitely thought-provoking. But should be noted that the piece didn’t originally come from the National Review (which is a politically conservative publication, but features articles with research from multiple moderate sources). The piece was actually published by the Institute for Family Studies, a much more right-wing think tank with very distinctly traditional/patriarchal/heteronormative agenda about marriage and family structure, which bother even a political moderate like myself.
I don’t mind the argument that many women decide to choose family over a professional career, and this shouldn’t be seen as a challenge to modern feminism, but claiming that this is what most women want (or should want, implicitly) becomes really problematic.
Thanks for pointing that out. I’m not diligent enough at looking where opinions are coming from. The article is obviously written to further an agenda, but it did make me think. I went to a top college, most of my closest college girlfriends who are married are now stay at home moms, besides me. I found myself judging them, as in, “how dare you”, like they were negatively impacting the women’s movement by not wanting to lean in, and by not finding fulfillment in a career like I do. My best friend (met after college), who is also the youngest director at the fortune 200 company that we both work for, unapologetically judges stay at home moms who come from a privileged background, and while I relate, I felt a guilt feeling that way. The article is much too one sided and simplified, but “to help women thrive and achieve happiness as they see it” really hit me. It should be ok that some of my high achieving friends now want to be stay at home moms, maybe that’s the happiness that they want to achieve. They don’t judge me for being a corporate rat-raser, maybe I should give them the same leeway. Also, we all have more depth than just stay at home mom or corporate robot, as their kids growth many of them have entrepreneurial interests that they are pursuing, and making big impacts in volunteering and fundraising, and who knows, I may give it all up and open a tiki bar on a beach somewhere after a breakdown. Anyway, thanks for posting Belle, it’s an interesting concept.
I’m happy to see a piece that speaks to women like myself who are ambitious and had a great career before kids yet are mostly happy (and are financially able) to take time off to be with their kids and count it a worthy pursuit no matter their career potential. Surely it isn’t what “most” women want as the article claims but I appreciate steps taken to further our impact on the workplace both now in a part-time role and when we decide to step back in full time.
Duh, if you’re smart enough to have a career, you’re smart enough to have married a rich guy (unless you’re ugly) who will never divorce you (unless you get fat).
Anon… Would encourage you to read this.
https://www.ft.com/content/5c592b32-462b-11e3-b495-00144feabdc0
A Gentleman in Moscow is WONDERFUL, I finished it last week!
Good to know– I bought it awhile ago because I thought it looked interesting, but haven’t started it yet. Maybe I’ll read it next.
I completely agree! I loved this book! Didn’t want it to end. I especially loved the positive tone, given the many negative circumstances.
I like how the first question on Amazon for Hibiclens is: “If there is a zombie apocalypse, would this product counteract a bite, or would it be, like, you know, the end?”
I listen to a podcast called “Science vs.” that recently did a pretty informative piece on acne and the effectiveness of different acne remedies. Since you’re looking for treatments, you might find it helpful 🙂
Love Science VS.
Re: the Elle article, If this is a case of a company or direct supervisor that still thinks assertive men are leaders and assertive women are bitches, the woman might want to consider switching companies because she’s probably never going to be able to please them. But it’s also very possible that it’s just a matter of different communication styles. For the first time in my (short) professional life, I’m working at a company with a very experienced HR consultant and a management team that actually deals with miscommunication issues rather than letting them fester. In My role has some HR components so our consultant has taken on a mentoring role with me . There have been many times where I thought someone in my office reacted completely inappropriately to something I said but she gave me a fresh perspective on how what I said might have been perceived by the other person. And some things you just have to let go. Just today my boss’s boss asked me to send out a friendly reminder email to the whole office and mentioned that my emails are sometimes too curt. So I had someone else read the email before I sent it out then I went about my day. If you’re doing uour job well, don’t let that kind of stuff eat you alive
I used to be a surgical tech and hated scrubbing my hands with Hibiclens because it was SO drying. I can’t imagine washing my face with it! It also has a really strong smell, just FYI.
The idea of a cleanser used for surgery prep used widely by the public makes me worry about the development of antibiotic-resistant bacteria. Remember the antibiotic goes down the drain as well, and can spread into aquatic systems.
100% agree. This was my first thought when I saw it! Please consult your derm. I struggle with adult acne and my derm has me on a new regimen that is my holy grail and has me completely clear!
Chlorhexidine’s (active ingredient in Hibiclens) nonspecific bactericidal MOA is most likely responsible for its broad spectrum of effectiveness and lack of resistance. And it’s already generally available to public.
But it’s also not indicated for use to treat acne, and includes several warnings about getting in your eyes, mouth, nose and ears – so I’d be very careful about using on your face for those reasons, in addition to the warnings for skin irritation and drying.
Belle- could you let us know if the Steve Madden sandals (in #2) are comfortable? They seem like it, but ankle straps can sometimes give me gigantic blisters.
This. And I co-sign R’s concern, too.
I’m curious how they look on someone with wider ankles and muscular calves. I usually can’t wear kitten heels, because they make my ankles look thicker and find that block heels that get wider at the base have a similar effect, but these look cute and comfy, so I’m intrigued.
Where did you get your Steve Madden sandals! I am on the hunt for a coupon code, but can’t find anything!
The link goes to Nordstrom, but you can find them at various other retailers, including places that might have coupons, discounts, or sales. My advice would be to wait a few weeks and google the item (“Irenee”) to see where the sales are.
The Millienal Marriage Proposal is perfection! I live John Crist. Been following his comedy for the past year.
Have you seen an electrologist for your acne? I recently had electrolysis done and my electrologist went into some of my infected pores (acne) and cleaned them out. From what I understand, the electricity kills not only hair follicles, but also oil producing cells. She has zapped a bunch and the acne goes away and the pore is smaller. Something to consider!