The Daily Eight: August 25, 2016
Aug 25, 2016
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1) The ludicrous debate about wearing engagement rings to job interviews continues. (Refinery29)
2) How is this incredible Louise et Cie bar cuff $30? Also, this Madison Parker five-layer necklace in black beads with gold accents…all about the drama.
3) An interesting article on the importance of being vulnerable at work. (Women’s Agenda)
4) I need these black and textured white pumps from Gilt. And you do, too. I know, still a bit of a splurge, but wow.
5) Meet Katherine Johnson, the NASA mathematician who broke down barriers and helped put a man on the moon. (Vanity Fair)
6) The perfect copper nail polish that I cannot live without. Or, if you prefer, dark, moody charcoal.
7) The Charmed Life of Pandora: How bracelets became a jewelry empire. (Racked)
8) Rage, rage against the dying of the white! This deeply discounted Altazurra dress, and this cool 5th & Mercer sheath should be worn long after Labor Day.
*image found here.
Oh this engagement ring debate annoys me! In addition to “high maintenance” I have also heard the ridiculous assumption from people that women with large engagement rings may not necessarily NEED the job, since their partners clearly do well, and because of that that they are more likely to split at any sign of trouble in the organization or with the job. Whatta stretch.
It’s lunacy. The type of people who make those types of assumptions ought to stop projecting their issues onto others.
First impressions and professional appearances are important, of course. But if an employer is going to look at my ring and make ridiculous assumptions about my character and performance then I don’t need to work for them. I’ll be damned if I make some show of doffing it for the interview when my habit is to wear it. I’d consider not being hired for such a ridiculous reason a blessing.
That said, we shopped for my ring together and made a sensible selection, nothing ostentatious. But *still*.
I don’t wear my engagement ring to interviews as an extension of the “don’t wear distracting jewelry” advice. We (or at least, I) scrutinize every aspect of our interview attire expecting that interviewers will do the same. It’s seems irrational to think that “natural makeup” and “smart shoes” are OK to opine on, but bridal jewelry isn’t.
That recruiter projected some terrible internalized misogyny, and disgusting rationale. It just drives home that if he’s thinking this way, who else might be? I’d rather not take the risk.
Sorry, but Pandora bracelets remind me of Vera Bradley bags in their ubiquity. When soccer moms in suburbia take over a brand as their own so that you see it everywhere, it loses any style factor.
I’d put Alex and Ani bracelets in this category as well.
I’m not into the bracelets, but some of their little rings are cute.