Earlier this week, I wrote about moving beyond denim for going out attire. Several of you asked for suggestions about how to be classy and sexy at the same time in a club or late night bar environment. (I prefer not to use the words skanky, slutty, trampy, etc., because I don’t think how you dress is necessarily indicative of sexual mores.) And while finding an appealing outfit that isn’t too revealing is possible, it certainly can be a challenge.
Over the years, I’ve discovered that the trick is to find a dress that plays up one physical feature at a time. A low-cut dress should be knee length or near-knee-length. A backless dress should have sleeves and a higher neckline. A mini-dress shouldn’t be too revealing.
This Parker Tank Dress is short, but it has a high neck and isn’t too snug. Great for a woman who wants to show off her legs.
This dress from Asos Glitter Print Dress is backless, body-conscious and sparkly, but it’s also a midi-length. Perfect for late night dinner and drinks or a trip to Vegas.
Amanda Uprichard has a deep-v dress with a breezy fit and longer bell sleeves. It’s flirty and sexy, I like that the drapey fit keeps it classy.
And if you want to show off your curves but keep almost everything else covered, this racerback body-con, Hybrid dress from Asos is just the ticket.
Obviously, choosing a dress that is both sexy and appropriate is all about your personal comfort. I would have no trouble wearing this snug, backless midi-dress or this deep-v with long sleeves mini-dress, but you may not be. And your comfort is incredibly important, because you won’t look sexy, if you don’t feel sexy.
The last time I posted a dress with cutouts, I was roasted in the comments for displaying streetwalker attire. But frankly, I think cutouts or an open back is a great way to show skin without showing too much. I also like this Asos pencil dress with the cutout across the midriff.
It’s nice to step out of the box sometimes and do something daring. Sure, I wear ladylike dresses and suits all week. But if I’m headed out on the town, I’m going to take that opportunity to wear a dress that’s bold and sexy and fun. Because why the hell not?
Lastly, when dressing to go out, undergarments are incredibly important. Visible bra strap and VPL are tacky and preventable.
I’m smaller-chested, so I don’t need a strapless bra. I just wear a NuBra or shields for concealment. If you are larger-chested, my friend Annie swears by the Faveo Perk Ups she bought in the UK. She had a backless wedding dress and they held up her FF-cups all night.
If you need help in the VPL department, Commando boy shorts or Hanky Panky thongs are usually the way to go. Unless the fabric is thin, then the texture on the lace HPs will show through and you need to go for smooth, seamless microfiber.