The Edition: No. 333
Jul 19, 2022
Your commitment to your wellness is part of the revolution. // Danielle LaPorte
+ On managing stress and recovering from burnout.
+ This wrap maxi dress is going to sell out, snap it up quick.
+ Text your friends. It matters more than you think it does.
+ Express has some cute ‘going out tops.’ I like this off the shoulder.
+ Should you feel guilty about having downtime at work?
+ These $19 hoop earrings are a steal.
+ 15 Easy Dinners for Hot Summer Days.
+ I bought these small Blueair filters for my house; I am obsessed.
+ This is the most sustainable way to motivate employees long-term.
+ Gap has the cutest dresses right now. This one runs summer to fall for 40% off.
+ How to help a friend through a divorce.
+ Universal Standard is having a sample sale on their inclusive styles.
+ The case for caring about things less. (My husband has mastered this; sometimes I wish he hadn’t.)
+ Need cardigans? This LOFT crewneck and tunic cardigan both caught my eye.
+ Travel is expensive; try these staycation ideas.
+ I stocked up on these climate-friendly tees for postpartum (also in plus).
+ She warned women about her cheating boyfriend, then the cease-and-desist arrived.
+ No matter what, I always seem to end up buying a tube of Boy Brow.
+ Fashion has abandoned all human taste and left us wanting.
+ Yes, Kyle convinced me to buy these gold-accented men’s sneakers in my size.
One Interesting Read. A boss created maternity plans for an employee, including flexible hours and pumping space, she didn’t want them. Now the boss is upset.
I have long hated the phrase Impostor Syndrome. The #girlboss of it all makes me cringe. Sometimes we feel we aren’t ready because we.genuinely.are.not.ready, and Impostor Syndrome turns that understandable doubt into a weakness that you must conquer, another failing you alone can cure. I keep hoping it will die off, but no luck so far.
Thanks, Adam, for encapsulating why sometimes it’s good to feel uncertain when you genuinely have something to learn.
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Those men’s sneakers are way cuter than the women’s sneakers I’ve been looking at. Gonna check them out! On sale, too!
Let’s hear more about these air filters!!
The men’s sneakers are awesome but the smallest men’s size is a 7!! I need a men’s 4?!! I want!!!
I have blueair filters in each bedroom and two of the big ones on the main floor and they have made such a difference in my allergies (bought them a little over 2 years ago now). I cannot rave about them enough; I even put one in my work office to freshen things up.
I am a longtime Boy Brow user. I recently ordered the Boom version (I really like the Boom Stick) and am interested to see how it compares: https://www.boombycindyjoseph.com/products/boom-brow
I’m a fairly recent divorcee (coming up on 3 years) and I liked the ‘how to help a divorcing friend’ article. I definitely agree with the ‘make plans’ suggestion – it is hard to be alone in an empty house, and the weekends without the kids are the hardest.
For me I definitely did not want to hear from friends that they ‘understood both sides’ in my divorce, or from friends who wanted to offer me co-parenting advice or tell me how my ex was doing. My divorce was not amicable and it continues to get worse, and I needed (and still need) people who were 100% ‘Team Denise’. I don’t want you to empathize with my ex, i don’t want to be encouraged to see things his way – we couldn’t do that and its part of why we got divorced. And suggesting this could be damaging to those in abusive relationships (think you’d know if your friend was being abused? Think again). Be 100% ‘your friend’, 100% ‘f that guy’. That’s my recommendation anyway 🙂
Yikes on the article about the boss getting mad at her employee over not using the maternity benefits. Weird.
Loved the article on thanking folks as a motivator at work. I find the atmosphere of thanking people often in my current workplace makes such a difference in feeling appreciated and a part of the team.
Article on the pregnancy accommodations was interesting-I wondered if the employee felt pressure not to use the benefits, like a flexible schedule, so as to not be treated any differently than other coworkers and potentially be mommy-tracked. Also, few seem to realize that making assumptions, such as that a mom will want to be home more with her kids, and treating an employee differently based on those stereotypes (not saying that the boss actually did here, but she seemed to harbor resentment that could cloud her judgment) can be sex-based discrimination.
Reading it, I felt like a lot of the issues could have been avoided if she had just talked to the employee before she put all the accommodations in place about what she really needed. I’m not planning to breastfeed past my mat leave, at least right now but things change, so if someone made me a pumping room, I’d be like, thanks so much, but that was a lot of effort I could have saved you.