The Edition: No. 111
Jul 11, 2019
“When a man gives his opinion, he’s a man. When a woman gives her opinion, she’s a bitch.” — Bette Davis
Severed. What to do if you were just laid off (or might be).
Frozen. A drugstore makeup setting spray that works in time for August weather.
Community Property. Who paid for what at your wedding?
Worked Out. Clearance-price active wear at Old Navy is a must. Grabbed these $12 leggings.
Indebted. Teachers are suing over the loan forgiveness that wasn’t. If you’re in the public service forgiveness program, Dept. of Ed. says these are the common mistakes borrowers make that prevent forgiveness.
Wrapped. Loving this plus-size chambray wrap top for summer.
Starting Over. My husband died. I started dating four months later.
Lifted. These Kelly & Katie wedges are perfect for the campaign trail.
Stepping Up. Walking meetings, helpful work trend or just hype?
We all love a good summer-time dessert. I find these mini-peach upside down cakes to be a great barbecue add. The key is two fold: one pour some caramelized sugar into the pans and let it harden before laying down the peaches (you’ll need to put a parchment round underneath for easy removal), and two, bring small plates so people can take them home. This way you won’t get stuck with a giant pan of dessert.
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The story by the young widow was interesting. I am an anxious person by nature, and probably spend an unreasonable amount of time worrying about my husband dying (I’ve never voiced this to anyone, so maybe others worry too?) I’ve considered, “maybe we should bank sperm/eggs” so that if one of us dies, we could still have a child together. I’m not an overly romantic person, but I really cannot imagine wanting to date, like, ever again if I lost him. I would want a child, but…a new spouse? All that to say, I can’t even fathom trying to date at 4 months. Obviously she was trying to distract herself, but did anyone say, hey, this may not go well?
Probably. And I probably would’ve thought that too once upon a time but I started listening to a podcast by Nora McInerny who lost her husband to brain cancer and then dated and had a kid not terribly long after and it changed my perspective. There is never a good time to “get back out there” and so I try to have some empathy when it happens “sooner” than what an outsider expects. Honestly, someone is always going to think it was “too soon.”
Definitely – I can clearly remember my grandmother telling me she was “seeing someone” 10 months after my grandfather (her husband of 43 years) passed away. I was so upset at first, but 10 years later they are still the best partners and supports for each other and they bring each other so much joy.
Just wanted to say that I too spend an unreasonable amount of time thinking about all the tragic things that could happen. I think this is normal for some people. My friend went on anxiety meds because she would lay in bed thinking about dying. (I do this so I didn’t realize it was weird). My personal opinion is that there is real, uncontrollable anxiety that can’t really be explained and then there are normal thoughts that can be controlled with mental restraint and maturity. Anyway, don’t feel bad about feeling that way as long as it doesn’t control you.
Missing the link for the “stepping up” article…….
I’d love to know the link for the walking meetings article.