Ask the Edit Vol. IV, No. Thirty
Oct 18, 2017
Can you help me find a black high heel boot and/or bootie for the office? Everything I find is NOT appropriate for an office in the State Department. Help. Also, I need to spend less than $150.
As for tall boots, those are tougher to find in your price range. This $200 pair of Sam Edelman’s are lovely. Aerosoles also has a great pair (with a stable looking heel) for $159. The best under-$100 pair I found are these Carlos Santana boots.
Leopard scarves, yay or nay? I have one and it just feels like too much.
Love your blog! KL
A leopard scarf is a great add. Hell, I think leopard anything is a great add to basic neutral pieces. But that doesn’t mean it’s a great add for every outfit or a great add for you.
If you don’t feel like a leopard person, than go with that. Just because other people like it doesn’t mean you will. Maybe you like bright colors or geometric prints or chunky knits. Pick the accent trend that you feel good about.
If this is just a styling problem, then here is my advice: Keep It Simple. Leopard scarf with a simple black sweater. With a white/ivory sheath. With jeans, a white tee, and a black blazer. Start simple, branch out.
Need a leopard scarf? This $19 one from Nordstrom is my favorite right now. Chic, unfussy, not tacky leopard in an affordable package.
My fiance and I are having a courthouse wedding. It just feels right for us, it’s not about the money. My soon-to-be MIL is complaining and offering to buy me “any dress I want” if we have a big church wedding. It’s so tempting. This is out of your wheelhouse, but would you do? You gave me some advice about first dates three years ago and it was just what I needed.
Also, if I could ask another question, would you wear a short dress to a civil ceremony?
The hardest thing in life is to tell people you love, no. This woman is your fiance’s family, and about to be yours. She’s overstepping. She probably doesn’t think she is, because parents have dreams for how their children’s big life events will and should go, but she is. The only people who get a primary opinion about your wedding are you and your man. I would talk to him first, how would he handle this?
Don’t complain about his mom, just ask him as the subject matter expert how to talk to her about this. You probably need to do it together. And you need to do it as a united front. This is your choice, this is why you’re making it, and you’re doing it together. I’m sorry, this sucks, but it gives you a chance to handle a problem together in a productive way.
As for a dress, wear what you want. I mean, I wouldn’t break out a huge, Cinderella style ball gown with a 20′ train, but there is some room here. If you go for a short dress, there are great options. A sleek one like this Roland Mouret. A party dress like this Unique Vintage dress. Want a long dress? BHLDN has some lovely ones, this simple Sawyer dress would be nice.
My best advice, doled out from the dozens of brides I know, is just be you. Have the wedding that feels like you and will feel like you 20 years from now. As one of my friends told me when I asked her about this, “You and your hubs are the focus, fight to be the focus, but don’t overlook people. You can include people without making them decision makers.”
Quick question, have you tried the Beachwaver? It looks like the easiest curling iron ever, but is it good?
I just bought it because Grace raves about it (and I had a coupon to Ulta), so I’ll report back.