We are locked in blog update hell over here. We’ve been working to take the new site live for a couple of days. My designer loaded it up last night but there was a problem with the second-page formatting. Then, I stupidly deleted 676 Ask the Edit posts. So we’re still working out the bugs, the giant, New York apartment size bugs. Hoping to have it up today.
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1) Why do women bully each other at work? (The Atlantic)
2) These $42 elastic studded flats bring a bit of cool to your work looks.
3) The persistent fantasy of the fashion magazine job. (Racked)
4) This Nanette Lepore skirt suit and eggplant Le Suit are worth a look.
5) Why I work myself to death: the reasons behind overworking. (Salon)
6) Outnet Musts: an ivory tie-neck blouse, a red cocktail dress, a green faux-wrap.
7) Clever morning routine hacks for busy women. (Inc.)
8) Need earrings? These AT green drops are amazing, or these minimalist wire-drops.
9) A winning parental leave policy can be surprisingly simple. (HBR)
10) This Astley Clarke Thundercloud bracelet is dainty, but bold.
11) Seriously Bumble, you couldn’t just rent office space? (Buzzfeed)
12) Love this tie-back sweater from LOFT, and this dark grey blouse is perfect for work.
13) My new manicure color: OPI’s Reykjavik Has All The Hotspots.
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What I Watched. This video on why Meyers-Briggs tests are nonsense.
What I Bought. This grey blotter pad for my work desk.
What I’m Reading. The People We Hate at the Wedding.
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I am officially obsessed with the Bold Type and hope its lasts a long time. I am a little older than the target audience, but I love watching them deal with the world nonetheless. A little more of their editor could be fun too!
I love that the last episode was all about not saying “sorry.” My daily struggle!
Also asking for a raise! While i think the whole my friends will bail me out thing is farfetched, the whole conversation was fantastic!
Great minds think alike, I just had my nails done on Monday in OPI’s Reykjavik Has All The Hotspots and I am obsessed with it!
So excited to see the new layout
I happened upon the website last night, while the new layout was up and I liked! Very modern and crisp. Keep up the good work! The kinks will get worked out.
The article about paternal leave makes a few good points, but ultimately makes no sense.
My husband’s paternity leave was so important to our family, but his leave was pursuant to his employer’s policy, not mine. The woman’s employer can’t control what the man’s employer does (unless of course husband and wife happen to work for the same company), and the article seems to gloss over this fact in its hurry to make broad pronouncements about what “society” should do rather than focus on what’s within the power of any given company/employer to do.
And, I think it makes sense for only one parent to be at home at a time (except maybe in that initial recovery period for the woman, esp if Mom is recovering from a C-section and is recovering, not actually able to care for a baby) – BUT, I think Dads are better Dads when they are Dads all alone and can’t ask Mom what to do, especially in the case of brand new Moms and Dads. Let the Dads stay home and Moms go back to work – that’s what needs to happen. (Of course, that will happen when we stop having miss-information/misogynistic information about the benefits of breastfeeding and how it MUST be Mom at home or else babies feel abandoned b/c they aren’t snuggling breasties all day until at least 3 months, make that 6 months, make that 12, make that 18….. or they won’t feel nurtured/happy or be healthy)
Agreed. My husband took a month off when I returned to work, and it was a lifesaver. I only had to worry about going back to work, not how my baby was doing at daycare – I knew they were both doing great! In California we have additional protection, so regardless of his employers policy he was entitled to 6 week paid leave (at 55% of his salary) through SDI. He took two of those weeks while I was physically recovering, and the other four at the end of my leave. So many men, and maybe women too, think it’s something to brag about that they rushed back to work and it’s because corporate culture seems to reward this putting work before anything else attitude.
Thanks for posting the Atlantic article. I consider myself to be a woman of the ‘a rising tide lifts all ships’ variety, and it never really occurred to me how differently other female co-workers and supervisors might view the success of other females in the office until I worked on the Hill. My immediate supervisor in my Senate office was barely older than me, had never managed anyone before, and never properly trained me but would go on vacations or take time off leaving me to stumble through assisting our boss, who wasn’t shy about letting you know if you didn’t do things the way he liked. She refused to speak to me about anything unless it was absolutely necessary, even though it was difficult for both of us to leave our desks and we didn’t have anyone else around to talk to. She was super judgmental and would act as though anyone who didn’t see the world the way she did was a dolt (I can’t tell you the number of times I heard her describe someone as an “idiot” or a “moron” for the smallest of mistakes, and I have no doubt she spoke of me the same way. My boss once asked me for a paperclip when she was on the phone, and she hung up the line quickly and rushed in to hand him one, as though I was incapable of providing him with the appropriate paperclip (I wasn’t, in case that wasn’t clear). It was the most miserable year and a half or so of my life and eliminated any desire I might have had to stay in D.C. I’m glad I left, and I’ve now recovered from the experience—five years later—but working with my “queen bee” destroyed my confidence and left me with a lot of damage to sort out. It taught me a valuable lesson, though, and I’ve made even more of an effort since then to always remember that when the women surrounding me succeed, so do I.