1) Three strategies women can use to counter sexist interruptions. (Quartz)
2) BR’s split sleeve top and Avery pant make the perfect casual Friday look.
3) Single woman downplay career and salary expectations. (Chicago Booth Review)
4) Love briefs? Skin makes ‘granny panties’ pretty with their briefs and hipsters.
5) How to deal with useless informational interviews. (The Cut)
6) LastCall Musts: A Tahari a-line dress, a chic $69 sheath, and an ivory peplum sheath.
7) The truth about being a working mother, and why they need to ask for help. (Red)
8) Do not miss ALLSAINTS superb minimalist hobo bag and convertible crossbody
9) Are women borrowing student loans to get ahead of men? (The Guardian)
10) Amazon has the best selection of stone jewelry. This Danielle Nicole cuff is so chic.
11) What we get wrong about women who don’t have kids. (Refinery29)
12) I am strangely obsessed with these Pour la Victoire Mary Janes.
Who I’m Following. @copycatchic on Instagram.
What Stabilized My Acne. I went back to Differin (now that it’s OTC); it seems to be helping.
What I’m Eating. Strawberry Honey Butter. Adios, cream cheese.
Where I’m Going. Back to D.C. next week for a quick trip.
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Rachel C says:
As a 32 married woman with no intention of having children, I found the Refinery 29 article very interesting. I read lots of articles explaining why women don’t have children. But what I want to know is why are women expected to provide a reason for not having children? When a women announces that she wants children people don’t expect any follow up or explanation. But if you say you don’t want children, people always expect an explanation and justification – financial, job focused, blah blah blah.
I’m sure I want children, but I am occasionally asked why by other female friends who do not want them. I agree with you though that a woman should NOT have to provide an explanation simply because society needs to decide whether her failure to fulfill biological duty is justified.
No one has ever really asked me why I don’t want kids, even though I’ve never hidden it in any way. I think they assume the obvious reasons, like money and freedom. But then, most people I meet agree having kids is the worst. They have them because they feel like they have to.
Belle the Red article about being a working mom made me cry and felt so raw and real, thank you. A wonderful wonderful article thank you for sharing and love the blog as always.
I don’t know for those who ask why people don’t want children if I’d classify it because they’re perceiving it from the perspective as a failure to fulfill a duty. I would imagine it comes because it is still definitely different to not want kids. Not wrong, just different. I have kids, but I have never considered it my biological duty. As a mom of a transracial family with two kids from Africa, I have gotten just as many questions about why I adopted overseas and not from the US. People just try to understand different things. I think sometimes we are quick to take offense at questions of these nature because we feel like we have to justify our own decisions against the cultural norm, which of course is also ridiculous.
oops, I meant this reply to Belle, not under Susan. Sorry.
I hate this. I just had a rant over mother’s day weekend about it (Between being childless, my mom passing when I was a teen, and my grandmother descending into Alzheimer’s I was not in the mood to discuss mother’s day plans, or lack thereof). Our issue is infertility- which then means people want to know every stupid detail of why we haven’t…. I’ve swapped to answering with “I’m happily spayed.” It throws the nosy person into a loop of confusion and allows for somewhat graceful exits.
The useless informational interview article was spot on! I’ve found myself 25 minutes into a conversation only to be asked if I had a connection in a totally different department of my company. Or asked very broad basic questions like “how do I get a job in X” far too many times. Great to have tips on how to handle!
I’ve been using Differin for about 6 weeks now. I think maybe is helping but it’s too soon to tell. I’m still getting a lot of white heads but the hard, cystic acne is better. For a while my face was basically peeling off from it but I think it’s getting more adjusted now. Apparently that’s called retinization.
Anyone have good experiences with it? The website says it takes up to 12 weeks to work.
Belle, do you still use the invigorating night treatment on top off differin?
I use the differin during the day and the old at night. Mixing them is too harsh for my skin.
I’ve just gone back to it as well. Wondering what other people use with it? What moisturizer? I also became a fan of the Ole Henricksen night treatment thanks to this blog, but some googling tells me you shouldn’t pair an AHA with a retinoids?
I’ve had great success with the 0.3% prescription Differin. It took at least 12 weeks to see improvement (I had some pretty bad hyperpigmentation from a super nasty and never-ending chin breakout) but my face is really clear, smooth, and even-toned these days. I should add that I never experienced a single one of the usual side effects, so I think my skin plays particularly well with this stuff. Tretinoin was a different story (see aforementioned chin breakout).
I recently picked up the 4% PanOxyl facewash on the heels of an epic stress breakout, and I’ve really liked it so far. I only use it once a day to prevent it drying out my skin, abut I can’t believe a $12 facewash from CVS has done so much in a few days.
Is your skin dry/combo/oily?
The Red article is great. She is just the kind of voice moms need to hear. Having a child taught me to ask for help and accept help. I didn’t ask or accept as much as I should. When I did I made connections with others that helped me feel like I was in a community. It reminded me many of us actually like to be asked.
I also liked her points about being paid well because of the work she put in, and that being sad isn’t always something that needs immediately fixed (depressuon being a different beast). That’s a good reminder for anyone juggling career and life.