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1) ‘Nice’ is a four-letter word at companies where employees practice ‘radical candor.’ (WSJ)
2) I’ve been on the hunt for a pair of lace-up flats that weren’t boring. These Topshop Ghillie flats with a unique shape and tassel accents are great.
3) This new Gmail plug-in highlights words and phrases that undermine your message, like “sorry, but” and “I’m no expert.” (Fast Company)
4) Boden makes the best stripe t-shirts. I also love this floral lace top. Their simple Gwyneth blouse is perfect for the office. And to get you through the winter, this cowl-neck sweater.
5) When do you become an adult? (The Atlantic)
6) Add some designer to your life with these Isabel Marant rose gold and storm-blue drops. I can’t believe they’re only $70.
7) Can a 10-year-old knowingly and intelligently utilize his constitutional right to remain silent? The California Supreme Court thinks so. (The Baffler)
8) On the hunt for blazers? I love this burgundy jacket from ASOS Premium. Their long, striped boucle jacket looks like a vintage throwback. And this Lavish Alice cape jacket could be fun in the right office.
9) Tips for staying physically fit while on the road for work. (The Everygirl)
10) A friend of mine wanted me to post this Strivectin Densify hair restoring treatment to thicken and regrown hair. She’s slowly going bald due to genetics, and this is the only product she’s found that helps.
11) Need a laugh? This YouTube video about ‘Instagram Husbands’ definitely delivers. The companion website is also pretty good. (The Mystery Hour)
Eye Candy. Roland Mouret has created a fuchsia showstopper that is eye-poppingly gorgeous.
*image found here.
Belle, I’m so glad you shared #5 about becoming an adult, for two reasons…
One, the article speaks to my soul, especially right now, when my “flailing” has hit an all time high. It’s good to know that this is something that is talked about from so many different perspectives, appealing to people of all ages. It’s a huge deal. And it’s scary as f&@#!
Two, I took a course with the researcher who is talked about throughout the piece, Arnett. Favorite story from his class: he is a very, um, proud man, and happy to have us use his research and books solely for his lower level courses. He even brought in his kids to talk to us (weird). But the best was when he asked us to talk about ourselves (common occurrence). We talked to him about different phases people go through/labels we experienced, and when someone said “emo” he, in a shocked tone said, “EMO? What is THAT?”
Yup.
When people bring up stuff like the new Gmail plugin now, I always send them to this link, which is a rebuttal to that article that told us we should all stop saying “just”:
https://www.businessinsider.com/workplace-advice-for-women-not-to-use-the-word-just-is-terrible-2015-7
“[This article] leans on the myth that if only women could act just a little bit more like men, they would finally be able to succeed in the workplace.
This is not good advice. Actual studies show that when women act like men in the workplace, they are often told to stop being so abrasive.
Kieran Snyder writes in Fortune that after looking over 248 performance reviews, “negative personality criticism—watch your tone! step back! stop being so judgmental!—shows up twice in the 83 critical reviews received by men. It shows up in 71 of the 94 critical reviews received by women.”