I have a dilemma that I thought warranted your advice. I have a wedding coming up that is “Black Tie Welcomed”. First, what exactly does this mean?
Based on previous “Black Tie Optional” weddings I have attended, very few people wore long dresses. Is “Black Tie Welcomed” a step above this and requiring of a long dress or can I get away with a dressier cocktail length dress. If the latter, do you have any recommendations for shorter dresses that can be dressed up? The wedding is being held at the end of July in a midwest city, so it will be hot!
It irks me when brides use a completely subjective dress code on their wedding invitation (Fancy Country Barbecue, for example). If you have a vision for how you would like your guests to dress, then please, for the love of Gucci, be clear about it or just choose one of the standard categories.
My guess is that the bride would prefer all of the gentlemen in tuxedos and all of the ladies in gowns but didn’t want to specify in case people weren’t in a position to rent a tux or buy a gown. So if I were attending this wedding, I would wear a nicer cocktail dress with good jewelry and an evening bag.
I would choose this course because I wouldn’t want to be overdressed or underdressed, and I agree with you that most people will be in short dresses to cope with the heat. But like I said, this dress code is completely subjective and the outfits will probably run the gambit from traditional black tie to cocktail.
If you need some more tips, check back to this past post about dressing for summer weddings.
Hi Belle –
Love your blog. Always enjoy the style pieces, but especially appreciate the posts about work-related issues. So valuable for a young professional like myself.
Question for you: My 24th birthday is later this month, and I’d like to ask my parents for a big-girl purse (don’t ask why it’s taken me so long to get here!). Thinking something neutral, but not boring; in style, but classic; leather, but not of the monogrammed variety. Would prefer to keep it under $200. Any suggestions?
Appreciate your help!
I think that the satchel is the best choice for a structure, “grown-up” work bag. While your first instinct might be to buy a black bag or a dark brown one, I would recommend a grey or tan bag. These colors work in cold and warm weather and blend with almost any color palette.
Typically, I would recommend that, when buying a bag you want to use for a long time, you stick with an established handbag designer like Cole Haan, Dooney & Bourke, Coach, etc. However, since you’re looking at a slightly lower price point, a bag by Ivanka Trump or BCBG would be fine as well.
Lastly, I would recommend that you keep an eye out for sales. J.Crew frequently has more expensive bags on sale. Dooney & Bourke often has sales on their website. And Nordstrom, Macy’s and Bloomingdale’s are all good places to hit the sales racks. If you’re looking in a sub-$250 price point, try to maximize your dollar by shopping a sale or visiting a department store outlet.
Your goal should be to get the best bag for the price. So wait for a sale, choose an all-season color and select a shape that can serve you for years.