Ten at Ten: November 23, 2016
Nov 23, 2016
I don’t usually post on holiday weekends. Thanksgiving is the exception. Check back through the rest of the week for sale alerts and picks for the best of Black Friday and Cyber Monday.
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1) When work won’t wait, how to be productive while traveling. (Career Contessa)
2) Club Monaco is my obsession; especially this feminine sweater dress and this chic-as-what tie sleeve jacket.
3) Inside Madame Paulette’s: New York’s Fanciest Dry Cleaner. (Racked)
4) Shopbop’s buy more, save more sale is on. A good time to buy “splurges” like Frye boots or Black Halo dresses.
5) People are getting work tattoos, and I’m unsure how to feel about that. (Refinery29)
6) Need an affordable puffer? LOFT has a sleek puffer vest that comes in eight colors. I also like this Style & Co. vest with fleece shoulder patches.
7) The Last Unknown Man: He appeared out of nowhere, but who was he? (A long, awesome read.) (New Republic)
8) This Topshop Bell Sleeve shirt in pale ivory is a gorgeous option for holiday parties. Just add sparkly earrings.
9) “I’m 29 and I never learned how money works. It’s time to fix that.” (NYTimes)
10) Think you’re too old to shop at Express? Check out this perfectly sleek Winged Satchel, and I’m kind of loving these bold leopard booties (and mildly surprised I just typed that phrase).
*image found here.
No link on No. 7?
Unrelated to the 10 @ 10, but did you delete your Instagram, Belle? I loved the outfit posts…and of course the Avery pics.
No, I still have an account. It’s just under @abrabelke now. We’re going to put the feed on the side back in when the redesign is complete in January.
Phew!
#9 makes me want to scream. In addition to the lack of financial knowledge, the entire concept of “adulting” for this generation is so embarrassing and infuriating. It’s not ok to be approaching 30 and like “Oopies, what’s my credit score? What’s a 401(k)? I overdrew my account again LOL!! Eating popcorn for dinner because I can’t cook! Being an adult is HARD!”. There are so many of my friends and peers that are going to be in bad shape, both financially and professionally, because of this attitude where there’s no real need to take ownership or responsibility for these types of decisions that are going to have a major impact on the rest of your life. You should understand basic personal finance, know how to do your own laundry, be able to feed yourself without relying on Seamless, and generally know how to function in the world. At least the author of this article admits that they’re clueless, but it still just makes me so sad and angry at the same time. Grow the eff up, Millennials (of which I am one).
Preach, Erin!
Many families fail to educate their kids on finances and other, “real adult life,” matters. Even in absence of adequate education, to have not figured at least some of this stuff out by twenty freaking nine is reprehensible and embarrassing. I joke about wanting to stay at home in my pajamas all day indulging in a Netflix binge while eating cookie dough, but it’s exactly that – a joke.
A girlfriend of mine just got engaged, and two years ago she couldn’t handle grocery shopping. She has not gotten a serious job on her own (family is well-connected). She knows nothing about budgeting or retirement. I seriously would not be surprised if she did not know what a 401k was or what her credit score is. I am worried for her.
A former acquaintance of mine turns 30 next year and was very much like, “What’s my credit score? LOL I overdrew my account – oh, that’s okay, at 28-29 my bank account is still linked to my dad’s for overdraft stuff, he’ll help me.” Sickening.
Ugggghhhhhhh, YES. A very good friend of mine literally won’t eat because she can’t cook and hates grocery shopping. I don’t get it. She has wonderful, responsible parents. How do you let your children leave your home without teaching them basic life skills? I was coddled in many ways as a kid and goodness knows my parents are terrible financial role models, but I left home knowing how to cook and clean and determined to figure out how to manage my finances better than my parents did. Heck, my parents even made me fill out the FAFSA (which pretty much only consisted of their financial and tax information) on my own. “Adulting” is made to be some sort of magical set of skills, when really, it’s just life.
For #5 – one of my friends has a “work” tattoo and it’s pretty cool because he did it to remind himself of his ethos, goals, progress, and aesthetic. It’s on his forearm, so he (and others) see it regularly. For context, he’s a Director of Photography and production and his tattoo was the original logo he used for his freelance work.
That’s one thing- it’s his own brand and his own business. But I’m not about to get the state seal tattooed upon my person in the near future!
My mom stopped doing mine and my brother’s laundry when we turned 16. But the most important thing they did was give us a significant allowance that we were expected to manage. We were young enough that any mistakes we made would be minor and they could bail us out if necessary. Meanwhile, when my best friend was 17, I’d ask her if she wanted to go see a movie and she’d say “I’ll have to ask my mom for some money.” That just baffled me!